Mom Heart Moments #51

An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her.

TO BE A GOOD WIFE DRAWS UPON all I can be in every area —my spirituality, intellect, wisdom, relational skills, creativity, artistry, perseverance, character, and beauty.

It seems that in this narcissistic time, all of life focuses on the “needs” of the person concerned. Is my husband gratifying me? Does his love fill me up? Could I have found someone better? But marriage is really about pleasing God —not my will but His be done. Most of us were not trained to be unselfish, so having to do so in marriage is a shock and surprise to our immature characters.

After the sparkle and ideals of marriage begin to wear off, a woman must settle in her heart that pleasing her husband and loving and respecting him is not about her own personal fulfillment, but about having a heart to please God in everything. It becomes a place of integrity before her children when they watch her loyal, gracious love given to a deserving or undeserving spouse. When I approach every attitude, every act of love and respect as a means of worshiping God by showing His reality in my marriage, then those acts have meaning —regardless of how my spouse behaves. There will also be conflict in every marriage, and sometimes our convictions will rub off on our husbands, but God will use us in their lives and them in ours. Learning how to stand on convictions and wise ways without nagging is an art to be learned. We are as iron sharpening iron when we live with the tension of friendship and love and are both so much better for the commitment to our ideals.

The first description we hear of an excellent wife is that the heart of her husband trusts in her. Are you trustworthy?