A Friend Of Your Own

There are “friends” who destroy each other, but a real friend sticks closer than a brother.

My daughter Eleanor had always been a bit shy and quiet in public. Being the youngest of five, she tended to follow along where everyone else was going, content to just be a part of the family’s bluster of activities.

But two years ago, something changed. She wanted a friend—not just her siblings’ friends who were kind enough to let her tag along, but a buddy she could call her own. That’s when we met Alayna and her family.

The interesting thing is that Alayna is very different from Eleanor in many ways. She’s spunky and loud, outgoing and curious. They seem like an odd pairing on the surface, but they complement each other perfectly, and they clicked immediately.

I’ve noticed that Alayna brings out all the best things in my daughter. Eleanor is more courageous and outgoing, welcoming new friends into their circle, because that’s how Alayna is. And as her mom, I couldn’t be more grateful. They dance together, are in the same class at school, and have even shared birthday parties. In Alayna, my daughter has a friend who is an absolute gift to her and an answer to her young prayers.

Introverted or extroverted. Loud or quiet. Serious or silly. We all need friends. People who understand us, who listen to us and love us. But they don’t have to be just like us to fit. In fact, sometimes being our opposite is even better because they can fill in what we lack, just as we do for them.

Scripture reminds us that a true friend is someone who doesn’t destroy others around them but instead sticks closer than a sibling. Someone who loves unconditionally and always looks out for the good of their friends. Someone who lifts others and encourages them to be the best version of themselves. That’s the God-given gift of friendship offered to each of us, and I’m so grateful for it.

Kendra

Today’s Act of Gratitude

Text, call, or message a friend who has been a blessing to you, and let them know how grateful you are for their friendship.